Let’s get real on what self-love means in today’s world of false beauty standards. Are we in the pursuit of our own well-being and happiness or are we going down a narcissistic path? In this post, I’m taking a deeper look into the meaning of self- love and the work we must do to harness that love each and everyday.



I’m sure we’ve all seen the #selflove on Instagram. It is literally on everyone’s post (I use it all the time), and from what I’ve come across most of times it is hash-tagged to a post discussing a cute outfit or a little skin therapy. Sometimes the post is about taking time alone or having much needed quality time with loved ones. These are all great forms of self care, which is the first step towards self-love. However, are we all really acknowledging what it means to truly love ourselves? In today’s world of social media influencers, Kardashians, and photoshop, it is easy for us to fall into the comparison game. Feeling unworthy because we don’t have the perfect lips or butt, if only we were more like this person or looked more like that person. Sure, comparison has always been around, but now with our “look at me” culture we are on another level. Plastic surgery once thought of as the last recourse for the aging is now the first stop for generation Y. Don’t like your lips, fill’em, don’t like your butt, suck out the fat from your waist and plump it, don’t like your nose, well get a new one.


I’m not saying there is anything wrong with plastic surgery and wanting to be happy in your body. Hey, I’ve thought about a boob job for a very long time and am still very open to plastic surgery when the time comes, so I’m certainly not judging. I have personal training clients, friends and family that have undergone procedures.  I’ve seen how it has helped some of them finally feel comfortable in their own skin and I’ve also seen others become unhappy with something else on their body. So the bigger question becomes, are they, you, and me loving ourselves for who we are and finding our joy from within.


We seem to perceive that self-love starts externally, however, it all begins internally. See, no matter how small your waistline gets or how expensive your clothes are, if you’re not happy from within, you’ll never feel complete. You will always be chasing that new accolade, accomplishment, compliment, relationship or object, to make you happy.


“I will be happy once I have or done …..”, was a line I lived by for years.

I never changed my personal appearance, but I did seek validation from what I accomplished. From my education, what and where I studied, to the title I held at my job. At first I would be excited over my accomplishment, but then it would fade away. Ever get to where you wanted to be and find yourself not happy? Meeeee!


If the waistline or accolades are not the answer to all your happiness and the ticket to self-love, then what is? Well, let me start by giving you these two very different definitions of self-love. According to dictionary.com the definitions for self-love are the following:

1: regard for one's own well-being and happiness (chiefly considered as a desirable rather than narcissistic characteristic

2: conceit; vanity


So as we discuss all things self-love on social media platforms, the focal point appears to be on the external and not enough on the internal. The falsehood of perfection, has caused a focus around the second definition, on vanity, only having admiration of our physical appearance.  This only fosters the cycle of exactly what we are needing to move away from, when we discuss self-love. We are staying in the realm of unhealthy comparison to our peers and exacerbating materialism. If we shift our focus to our individual well-being and happiness that’s when we make major strides.  That’s where our power is, it’s owning who we are, the good, the bad, the ugly and the beautiful. To have true self-love is to have self acceptance. Self acceptance is understanding your strengths, weaknesses, and worth. By ignoring societal pressures, opinions of others and even our own self doubt, we become who we truly want to be at our core. Aligning with with who we are at our core, being our authentic selves, is where we find our bliss.


So ignore everyone else’s ideology of so called perfection and be you! Love the skin you’re in, love your mind, love what you bring to this lifetime. There will never be another you, so why try to be and look like someone else? My hope with this entry is to raise our awareness of the topic of self-love and have real conversations about what we are focusing on when discuss it. Self-love goes beyond what’s on our screen. Please understand it is an ever evolving process. It will look different for everyone as they grow in their love, but remember self-love is always about you becoming a better version of you, not someone else. If you’re following someone that doesn’t inspire and empower you to love you, then maybe it is time to unfollow.



In love and light,

Jacarina

Taking trends from the 80's and giving it a modern twist for a fun night out.


When we think of 80’s fashion we think teased hair using endless cans of hairspray, shoulder pads to the high heavens, and neon colors to name a few trends. Yes most of these trends were hideous, but some never left like sequins and some faded then returned, the fanny pack.. I’m still not a fan. Overall the 80’s were all about being bold with your style, rocking eye catching pieces for everyday looks, colorful makeup and voluminous hair. I decided to take a page from this decade for a night out. So here’s my modern take on fusing that boldness with today’s silhouettes.


Don't be afraid to pull in metallic pieces to stand out from the rest. These copper skinny jeans were the base of the outfit and everything else was to highlight them.

Topshop Joni Metallic Jeans (Copper)



The cheetah print belt helped break the matching tones of the sweater and pants, along with defining my waistline in the heavy knit sweater. The gold caged wristlet was the standout accessory for the night, jewelry was kept very minimalist.


Topshop Metallic Stripe Sweater - available at Nordstrom

Express Mini Buckel Belt (cheetah print)


Like Dreams Round Cage Wristlet

Christian Louboutin So Kate Pump - available at Barneys and Nordstom


Classic Black pump to tie it all together. No sparkles needed here, lol.


In Love and Light,

Jacarina


3 products to add to your winter skincare routine to bring back hydrated, moisturized and glowing skin.

So it's officially winter here in New England, thanks polar vortex for confirming it! With temperatures dropping below 20 degrees ,the cold weather can take a toll on our bodies and  especially on our skin. If you suffer from dry skin like myself, this means flaky and crackling from the dry cold air and our skin needing extra moisture and protection.


For a little insight about me, I am very into skin care.  Now in my early 30’s, I’ve become super regimented with my daily skincare routine. When I was younger, this was not the case. In my early 20’s I was not always great about washing off my makeup after a long night of partying, let alone drinking enough water. Oh and lets not forget slathering on baby oil for my summertime golden glow. I literally cringe at the thought of these things I did. Since then, those horrible habits have been replaced with better and more nurturing ones. Instead of caking up on make-up  I’m now a fan of little to no make-up for my daily look.Don’t get me wrong, this girl loves a good highlighter and a bold lip, but with being at the gym most days it's just not my lifestyle and nothing can replace having beautiful glowing skin. Over the years, I really became diligent about taking care of my face, having a daytime and night time routine, and giving my skin a little TLC every week or so.



First and foremost, understanding that our skin has different needs during each season is key. For me, I have dry skin all year round. However, the winter season is difficult for me because of my, dry flaky patches. This winter by far has been the worst.  About 4 weeks ago I made a 911 run to Sephora, ready to breakdown because of how painfully dry my skin was. Luckily their staff is so well informed. The associate that helped me directed me to some amazing products that have transformed my skin. The first week  or so, I used everything as she recommended. Once my skin calmed down, I brought back my own skin care staples and have made a new routine for the winter. Voila!


These new products have drastically changed the look and feel of my skin.

Some of you may be struggling as badly as I was with severe dryness and some of you may be just needing to get a little glow back to your skin. Either way, one of these three products might be exactly what you might be looking for.





***these are my honest reviews and experience with each product. I purchased all these products myself . I was not give these products and  am not sponsored by any of these companies***



GLOW RECIPE - Avocado Melt Sleeping Mask

This is my first time incorporating a sleeping mask and let me tell you, this is game changer! This avocado based mask will hydrate and brighten your skin overnight. Oleic acid and Linoleic acid from the avocado will help restore moisture and collagen in the skin. Manuka honey provides the antioxidants and soothing properties to revitalize. This mask is also great for ALL skin types not just dry. It is recommended to apply the mask 2 times per week at bedtime after cleansing.  I followed this on my first week, however I’m only using the mask once per week now and I can still see the benefits.If you’re just looking to brighten and bring some glow back to your dull skin this would be the one product I recommend for you.



FARMACY- Clean Bee Ultra Gentle facial Cleanser

This is a natural base face cleanser that is ultra gentle and soothing. I apply it while my skin is dry and gradually lather it. My skin feels super clean without the dryness that comes from foaming washes. This is because Clean Bee contains hyaluronic acid, antioxidant rich Echinacea GreenEnvy ™ Honey helps maintain the skin’s natural moisture barrier.  It’s formulated with a blend of soothing turmeric, chamomile, calendula, aloe and licorice root. I love using it for my night time routine because the smell of the honey and botanical blend is so soothing and relaxing.





DR. JART+ Ceramidin Cream

This has quickly become my go-to night cream and sometimes even my daytime moisturize when I feel I need extra protection against harsher weather days. This cream is supercharged with 5-cera complex that helps visibly strengthen your skin and shield from water and moisture loss. This cream is great for dry scabs (which is what I had on my chin guys!), dry patches, itchiness or any irritated skin because the ceramics are our skin’s natural protection barrier. The ceramidin in our skin, are composed of intercellular lipids that act as our skin’s defense against environmental aggressors. It’s also great for anyone with sensitive skin because this product has no added fragrances or coloring.



I have been loving all 3 products, they have aided in bringing back moisture and brightness to my skin during this harsh weather. If you are struggling with dry, irritated skin or lost that glow we all love, then give these products a try.


Do you have any skincare products you're loving this winter? I would love to know, please share in the comments below. Stay tune for staple products and how I slow down my routine to apply them.


In Love and Light,

Jacarina